After four long months, it is time to break the silence.
Welcome back, friends!
In the recent past, I have made great strides in learning what it means to be an adult in today’s world. I have cut the booze seven months ago.
I have always had this naive assumption that if I could just tackle this one flaw, everything else will fall into place.
Happiness takes work.
Success takes work.
Getting through the quarter life crisis alive takes work.
In the months of my absence here at Hobbylager, I have continued on my path for self improvement.
Yet, things still feel shaky and uncertain.
Even though it can be hard to believe, I know I am not the only one.
So here it is:
Five Mantras for Surviving the Quarter Life Crisis
Nobody else knows what they are doing either.
Don’t let Facebook fool you, it is a perfect example of impression management through social media. Individuals have the ability to highlight the good in their lives while keeping the rest invisible. What you see in a social media profile is not the whole picture and comparison is futile
I know many young individuals with careers and stable finances who are unhappy with the direction of their lives for a myriad of reasons such as lack of passion in their work, a desire to travel or wanting to pursue a craft with less income potential. There are young individuals who aren’t sure what their next steps should be. Individuals like myself who are stuck in a middle ground. We exist in limbo while we feel out our options.
We are all a little bit unstable and that is okay.
Take it one day at a time.
I have recently identified a very real flaw of mine. I am consumed with desires for the future. It is as if I have lived the last decade of my life waiting for my train to jump tracks, that once it happened, things would be better.
While it is healthy to have goals and aspirations, it is important to acknowledge how damaging such an extreme expectation can be. I have lost the ability to live in the present. There will always be a desire and expectation for more.
Don’t lose track of the here and now.
It is okay to feel nervous.
It is a strange time for us millennials struggling to find our place in the world. Use that energy to try new things. Use it to gain new experiences because those are worth more than money in the scheme of things.
We don’t have all of the answers, and nobody expects us to, but it means we are human with a desire to make the most of our time on this earth. Just don’t let the nervousness paralyze you.
Balance is important.
Obtaining life goals takes effort and work. In most cases, it takes time. Long stretches of hard work with little immediate results can take a toll on your well being, leading to unnecessary stress and sometimes depression.
Take time to enjoy the people around you. Take time to enjoy just being with yourself. Take time to love on your furry companions. You get the picture. It may feel cliche, but one of the nicest things you can for yourself is to just enjoy yourself.
But it goes both ways. If you have ideas for yourself and your future, you can’t expect to make any progress if you’re failing to work towards it.
If you are putting in the effort, it will be rewarded.
It may take days. It may take months. It may take years, but you will begin to see the fruits of your labor. You also allow yourself the opportunity to gain greater insights into what it is your really want and don’t want.
It is a process.